Wednesday, September 10, 2008
I've been reading a certain blog for about 2 years now, it's written by a guy I befriended in a forum a couple of years ago and he actually encouraged me to begin blogging myself. Anyway, we have been reading each others blogs for the past two years and have commented often back and forth. I've always been a big supporter of his writing and truly considered him a friend and took an interest in what was going on in his life.
Well a couple of weeks ago I noticed that my comments were not showing up on his blog, I zipped off an email to him saying " am I a little tarded, or are you deleting my comments?" Well to my shock he sent me back an email saying yes in deed he was deleting my comments.
Now it's his blog and he can do what he wants with it, and I really wasn't that upset that he was deleting them, No I was more upset as to WHY he was deleting them. See he was deleting my comments based on a twisted, paranoid hypothetical theory of his.
His justification for deleting my comments was that If his wife had a blog and some strange guy was leaving comments on every post, HE might get a little jealous....wait it gets better....and therefore if He might feel that way about a blog of hers , then he has to consider that she might feel that way about me commenting on his blog.
OK well let me break down this dysfunctional defense of his.....first of all she doesn't have a blog at all, second- I don't comment on every post of his because frankly since he's gotten married...his writing has gone down the shitter.....he's lucky if I can muster up a comment every 10 posts. Additionally I am not a stranger to him nor her, he has written about how she read his blog in it's entirety before they began dating as a way to get to know him....if that is true she knows I have commented for the past two years....why is it a big deal now??? Additionally, I have never written a comment that I feel has ever been inappropriate on his blog and actually have been very aware of his wife's presence in his life since he got married, being careful not to step over any lines.....
But I guess what pissed me off the most about the whole thing is that I had to figure it out for myself. He didn't have enough respect for our blogging friendship to even send me an email saying hey do you mind not commenting on my blog , or better yet set his blog to no comments. But that's not the issue, he wants comments, just not MINE!!!
So to make a long story short, I told him I'd make his work a lot easier by not commenting at all, and as a matter of fact I moved him down to the bottom of my blog roll, removed his name from the list and simply marked the link with an *. If you think you are going to treat me... a loyal reader of your blog for the past two years like that, and get any free PR and link love, then you got another thing coming. Not a smart move for a blogger that has a readership of 3 whole people, oh wait make that two now. So peeps how lame is that in your opinion?